In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala then said,
There are several ahadeeth that prohibit reminding people of acts of charity. For instance, Muslim recorded that Abu Dharr radhiAllahu ‘anhu said that the Messenger of Allah salAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said,
ثَلَاثَةٌ لَا يُكَلِّمُهُمُ اللهُ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ، وَلَا يَنْظُرُ إِلَيْهِم، وَلَا يُزَكِّيهِمْ، وَلَهُمْ عَذَابٌ أَلِيمٌ: الْمَنَّانُ بِمَا أَعْطَى، وَالْمُسْبِلُ إِزَارَهُ، وَالْمُنَفِّقُ سِلْعَتَهُ بِالْحَلِفِ الْكَاذِب
“Three people whom Allah shall neither speak to on the Day of Resurrection nor look at nor purify, and they shall receive a painful torment: he who reminds (the people) of what he gives away, he who lengthens his clothes below the ankles and he who swears an oath while lying to sell his merchandise.”
What is qawlun maroofun?
It is saying good words to people even when we are unable to help them.
It is much better to offer a reasonable and appropriate excuse to the person asking you for a favor than being rude and insulting towards them.
There are times when people’s circumstances do not allow them to be too generous. At such times, a person must lose his manners. If the beggar harasses you, do not respond to his ill-behavior with anger or arrogance. Forgive him.
Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala reminds us of two of His Attributes: Al-Ghani and Al-Haleem. He is Free of needs and Forbearing. He needs nothing from anyone. One who spends does so for his own good.
–Make it a habit to never say no to someone asking you a favor. The Prophet salAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam never refused people even when his own financial condition was not strong. But through his character and manners he won the hearts of the people.
-If you do not have money – then work and earn money so that you can help those who are in need. If you cannot give money then use your skills to give sadaqah – volunteer more often.
-When someone asks us for our help but we cannot help them then we should excuse ourselves politely. This help could also mean helping your mother or wife in the kitchen. Don’t yell at her and say: I am too busy. If you are busy politely ask her if you can help her after you finish what you have to do. Let’s not waste our deeds by our harsh words.
-Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala does not need anything from anyone, yet He has been giving us pleasures of this world since our birth. And He is forgiving – even when the servant is disobedient or does not pray Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala does not stop their provision.
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